Punishment or Consequences?

All sentiments being know the difference between punishment and consequences. Punishments are artificially created outcomes. Consequences are naturally occurring outcomes. Punishments are imposed from the outside by someone with a valve system different from the one being punished. Consequences are experienced on the inside, by the Self. Punishments are someone else decision that one has done wrong. Consequences are one’s own experiences that something does not work. That is, it did not produce an intended result.

We do not learn quickly from punishments, because we see them as something that someone else is doing to us. We learn more readily from consequences, because we see them as something that we are doing to ourselves. The attempt to convert a punishment into a consequence by simply calling it that does not make it that. Only the most immature being can be fooled by such a verbal contrivance, and, even that being not for very long.

This has not stopped many of those among us who have parented offspring to use the contrivance. And the biggest punishment that you have devised is the withholding of your love. You have shown your offspring that if they behave in a certain way, you will withhold your love. It is by the granting and withholding of your love that you have sought to regulate and modify, to control and to create, your children’s behavior.

This is something God would never do.

Yet you have told your children that God would do that—no doubt to justify your own actions. True Love never withdraws itself. And that is what loving fully means. It means your love is full enough to hold the biggest wrong behavior. It means more than that. It means that no behavior is even called “wrong.”


“Love means not having to say you’re sorry.”

Most human beings cannot even imagine it being practiced by God.

NDW

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