A exploration of spiritual stillness, 30 day fast of reading, studying and practicing the 26th verse of Tao Te Ching. (Living Calmly) The month long spiritual exercise in accepting and being gracious for what lies ahead. Being a avid hack writer, I’ll post 30 days consecutively, thoughts on “Being Content.” Poems, exercises, take-home assignments, etc.
“What I Do Wrong?”
We have moments when life situations engulf us with great pain. Unexpected and expected events which suck the air right out of us. Family members, sudden illness, broken relationships, or consequences of our own thinking, can produce a frozen live corpse.
Our world upside down in a second, when events shove their way into our daily routine of life. It leaves us with a mind full of questions. Unfortunately, we ask questions that brings more pain, the biggest one, “What I do wrong?”
Can we learn from reliving past mistakes? I say, No. The path to contentment means “Accepting our experiences,” because in those experiences, is who we are. Trying to Redo a episode in your past, does nothing but stick the past in your present.
Our adult children conjure up this question at times “What I do wrong?” We begin to explore our past actions to explain their motives today.
A vicious circle begins, everything which besets them, you somehow blame yourselves. We have no responsibility to take blame for their actions. Free yourself from that chain of blame, right now.
A bad relationship is just that, a bad relationship, there is nothing hidden to discover. It did not work out, don’t become imprisoned with the unanswerable question, “Why?” Accept and move on, yes, its harder said then done, I give you that. Being held hostage is of your own accord, don’t forget that, “You have the keys to your prison.”
The road to your past doesn’t exist, some would have you think contrary. Its not in a physical museum, its mentally being can’t alive by you. Holding someone or yourself at fault for pain, can not bring you to a place of contentment. Only with surrendering can one heal, this is not a secret.
If you choose to buy books to hear this, that’s fine. “What you resist, will persist,” that’s your freedom. Let go of it. No matter who or what it is, Mother, Father, Children, old boyfriend, great lover, whatever, let the blame go.
Start your new you by accepting your experiences as your wisdom. Don’t shutter at what you may have done in the past. Its a positive to know who your are. Its a negative to be a shame of who you were in your past.
Accept yourself, by accepting everything about you. When you can talk about every facet of your life, without nervousness, you’re living, until then, you’re stuck.