“Freeing yourself was one thing; claiming ownership of that freed self was another.” Toni Morrison
“Once upon a time I was falling in love, but now I’m only falling apart.”—Anonymous. Nothing pains more than a broken heart fractured by a love one. Whether, from their actions or mental discontentment or both, the adage, ‘the ones closes to”…you know the rest. We chance happiness and pain with commitments to husbands, wives and mates. However, when we hurt each other, how can we quickly repair pain and ultimately the relationship?
Can love be confusing, of course, it can. Which is why, a love interests ought not to become a source of identity? What does this mean? Attempting to run our spirit through another person’s spirit may create a false sense of control. Consequently, we deceive ourselves that our significant other should make decisions based on our conceptions. Moreover, unfortunately, we quickly label them as ‘not caring’ or ‘selfish’ when this does not occur.
Yes, relationship is about sharing, ‘our individuality.’ More hearts have shattered from a false sense of control than any other behavior. Watch me here, “You cannot make someone Love You!!!” “If someone you love hurts you cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it.” – Anonymous. In other words, accept the misfortune, love, forgive them, and let it go. If you can’t, you have some decisions for consideration.
Love does not try to change or control people. We lose every time by holding on very tight, do not fear separation. Nothing cures a stubborn heart more than a missed loved one. Open the cage and let the bird free. “God is closest to those with broken hearts.” – Jewish Saying.