“You have projected onto yourself a world of your own imagination, based on memories, on desires and fears, and you have imprisoned yourself in it. Break the spell and be free.” Nisargadatta Maharaj from ‘I am That’
Obsessive thinking resembles a wireless connection to a bottomless pit of doubts and fears. The constant reflecting may become so intense we often break down from its weight. How many of us recognize obsessive thinking in others or ourselves?
Compulsive thought processing grew from our childhood; a defense mechanism developed to deal with unpleasant situations. The constant thinking and talking to ourselves was an escape hatch. Our own ‘Never-Neverland,’ it was equipped to hide us from perceived and actual threat. Unfortunately, we now realize, and sadly, obsessive thinking created more pain.
As adult, present day, emotional distress and obsessive thinking continue to send us to our rooms. Those rooms however are our jobs, a friend‘s ear or literally our bedrooms. It often paralyzes us into a corpse of fear and distrust. Subsequently, one reason is because we have never actualized the life that was promoted, ‘grow up, get a job or college degree, fall in love and…you know the rest.
How to Stop Obsessive Thinking
1. Stop Your Life of Fear
Fear and doubt drives obsessive judgments. Whether the root is a possible failed marriage or career, the constant belief of doom feeds negativity. You have trapped yourself in your room.
2. Get Mindful
Obsessive thinking creates a continual stream of past memories and future expectations. Get in the present moment and live most of your life there. The mind being present is an autonomous device that defeats obsessive thinking.
3. Learn to Forgive
Obsessive thinking loves the mind that cannot ‘let things go’. This fixation and prideful recall of terrible injustices are just that, an injustice to your spirit. You are on fire for something that happened decades ago. Let it go, free yourself.
4. Keep a Journal
Write down your life. It is a therapeutic wonder. Often you will find your thoughts scary and self-soothing at the same time. Verbalizing opinions and judgments in print gives you a first hand view of the madness.
5. Sit quietly
Sit down, slow your breathing and create a blank mind. A mind without thought is one of the hardest but peaceful spiritual experiences one could experience. Try it; practice it repeatedly…