“God grant you the strength to fight off the temptations of surrender.” Walter Annenberg. Mr. Annenberg’s quote signifies an act of spiritual imprisonment and ultimately a deliberate attempt at euthanasia. Contrary to popular national, cultural, and athletic’ rally cries, in most instances, whatever you fight will consume you. Paul Tournier, “Acceptance of one’s life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and injustices.”
However, all too often, we believe the harder one fight; the more one may accomplish or overcome. This is a misnomer, albeit, a powerful one. As a former athlete, if one appeared to surrender, it was the ultimate sign of human weakness. Nevertheless, as I later learn in life, this one unrealistic principle caused me unlimited pain and suffering. When one creates the illusion that to yield defines a feeble spirit, woe on to that person, I say. “Acceptance of what has happened is the first step to overcoming the consequences of any misfortune.” William James. To fight reality and remain steadfast against the obvious demonstrate a person lock inside their mind.
How often have we not accepted our reality? For instance, not only refusing to come to terms with unpleasant circumstances, but ultimately, erecting a ‘never say die” attitude. Specifically, as we play out the illusion we can control situations or persons’ behaviors and attempt to control the universe, we become obsessed with prevailing. There remains a great deal of pain for individuals who believe this principle. Primarily, as many of us have learned, we have absolutely no control over anything but our thoughts. To believe you are controlling someone’s actions is a fairytale.
If you desire change in a person or yourself for that matter, surrender, yes you heard me correctly, give up and let the situation occur without your interference. This is not prophecy or a treasure trove of some mystical oracle, but a peaceful resolution. There are so many spirits rested on the ill-fated wisdom that control of others and situations are in our power. Sadly, many learn and often too late, that we never had control of our lives, husbands, wives, children, not even our pets.
Accept, Surrender, Move On
Give up the ideal of trying to make someone change their behaviors. Incidentally, what will happen will occur in God’s time not yours. We preach a good game but many of us live contrary to our pious tongues. Some so obsessed with not releasing their spirit to God, they fight to control every facet of their lives. Eventually, placing the blame on the ‘God’s testing us’ parable when the crap hits the fan.
You have heard this, first person, “I am in pain,”…second person, “God’s just testing you” yea right, testing your foolishness, wondering way you continue to fight. How about you surrender, how about you throw your ego out the door and realize you do not control your own breathing, let alone people and circumstances.
Stop the madness in believing fighting will bring victory. Maybe it will, maybe it will not, but at what cost to the spirit for such a shallow win? If you want peace, surrender, give it up and move on. Allow your obsessions to go free, allow your spirit to accept individuals’ behaviors without judgment and condemnation. You do not have to be right all the time. More importantly, permit yourself to discover the strength in surrendering by allowing things to go their nature way, without your input. In other words, stop your pain by accepting, surrendering, moving on.
“Generally speaking, the Way of the warrior is resolute acceptance of death.” Miyamoto Musashi