10 Mistake People Make With My Introvert Personality
1. Never ask me to attend a social event if I’m home. I will not come because you gave me to much time to think.
2. I try never to attend or watch football games with people under any conditions. So, please don’t ask…unless you understand my personality. I’ll leave two minutes in the first quarter.
3. “Ask Rob, he’s a great motivational speaker”. I’m extremely self-conscious in public and I constantly think about going home. One exception, I’ll speak to little people and social justice issues.
4. I have never attended a large concert so don’t ask. I visited Georges in Chicago once to see Phyllis Hyman in the 80’s. Small set…it was workable.
5. Don’t surprise me with a gift, card, or any other trinket. I hate it.
6. I don’t celebrate holidays…even my birthday. So, don’t ask me to celebrate the 4th, Xmas, or your birthday.
7. Don’t ask me to do anything I’m unfamiliar with. I may get horribly upset.
8. If I come to your home, don’t ask if you can get me something. That places me under the spotlight….UGGGG!!!
9. If you come to my home you won’t be there long.
10. My wife insisted I attend my College Hall of Fame Induction. I went…mad and upset.
Who Am I?
Writer, Artist, Jazz lover, atheist, I’m not shy, dreamer, fierce fighter, loyal, and straight forward.
I am concluding my masters’ degree requirements this summer and I thought to include some conversations from our online sections.
Rebecca and I are classmates in a final course for my Ms.Ed., this summer. I thought it would be cool to blog some of our discussions. I respect Rebecca’s intuitiveness and her willingness to challenge status quo. She has been involved with marginalized groups (e.g., Blacks, women, Latinos) learning education for some time in her professional career. In fact, we are both reading instructors in the College Learning Enhancement Program (CLEP) at Northern Illinois University. The class is Nature of Adult and Higher Education and is guided by Dr. Karen Haley,
(Robert) The assumptions of postmodernism (e.g., Multicultural, learning-centered, informal experiences) considering gender and racial statuses are attractive as teaching modules. While I do not see learners as agents for social change, I do however value collaborative learning for the non-majority members, specifically African-American males. The tenet of ‘Caring’ is extremely important to marginalized groups in higher education. I find this principle in line with my belief in Humanism and culturally responsive teaching curriculum. Thus, each component together along with other variables (e.g., self-directed learning, self-actualization, and resiliency) provides a more Holistic learning experience for college-aged Black males.
(Rebecca) Hi Rob. Do you really not see learners as agents for change? You’ve spoken often about changing the landscape of education for African-American males, surely your approach is empowering and does have the potential to bring about change. I think all students are agents for change. Every life we touch brings about change!
(Robert) Dr. Vaughn (To Be) I knew this would stir your hornet’s nest.
I believe students should choose their paths and not follow a pre-package societal bucket list. In other words, if one chooses to help create social change through teaching that’s fine, I am on such a path. Nevertheless, I am not leading or suggesting every adult should follow my journey. The philosophy that “All” students should aspire___________ (Fill in the blank) creates followers not leaders. New Flash!!! You Should Be Who You Are!!!
Social change is just that social. If a movement arises and one feels the urge to make a different I commend them. However, African-American males are responsible for their conscious transformation first and foremost. If they decide to involve themselves in a mass incarceration anti-movement for example that’s great, if not, that’s great also. No person has the right to judge one by their civic, gender, or racial advocacies or non-involvement thereof. (Although I find myself during this more than I would admit) My teaching philosophy encourages self-actualization not a ‘Drum Beat’ of my definition of a life worth living. In fact: No one shall submit an outline of life’s activities as a precursor to cultural and social standards.
If you sit alone upon a rock…you are there
If you rail for social justice…you are there
You are who you could have become thus
potentials aren’t worth a damn
Life Exist With or Without You
excerpts from “A Champion Within’ The Autobiography of Robert Williams
Q. What Kind of College Football Player Were you?
A. I believe most of my college teammates would say my physical talents were marginal at best. I did not run a fast forty and weight lifting was an embarrassment. Often teammates would joke and make it an issue for comedy relief or chastise me for my weak work ethic in the weight room. They were mostly right, I did not run fast in a straight line, and lifting weight seemed to be a waste of time.
In my view, we did not play the game on the track and I seldom remember running downon the kickoff and tackling someone on a weight bench. The bottom line, I possessed tremendous skills and a cognitive gift for the knowledge of the game. I relied on something most football player were accused of not having…a brain.
I was an intelligent and tough football player, I studied game film intensely my entire career at Eastern. The coaches often reminded me of this value as I sat in on a few game planning with them. The game of football is about being smarter than your opponent and then exhibit your might; I had large muscles in those areas. However, some teammates were jealous because they did not conceive those traits as important than their speed or bench max. I believe I never received the accolades from some teammates because of my minuscule physical traits and my abrasive in your face personality. ..
…Football is an egotistical game and teammates can become jealous quite easy. In 1983, I was named to the AFCA Kodak All-American for the second consecutive year. As customary the award was given at the half time of a home basketball game. However, the same year my teammate Chris Nicholson had a tremendous season. He led the team in sacks, tackle for lost, he was a force of nature. In the air was the feeling that “Thick Nick” as we referred to him deserved the prestigious award instead. Some teammates made their position known that night in Lantz gymnasium as their applauds was cool at best when my named came across the PA system…
Sadly, some felt I was less than deserving of the award and they made sure I knew this in an implicit manner…I was hurt by their reaction but not surprise; I heard rumors and rumblings earlier in the week. I remember only receiving a few handshakes that night from teammates and the mass coolness from many detractors…
“Thick Nick” deserved All-American honors in 1983 as he was a stellar ball player, as was myself, but the selective committee saw fit to honor my play instead. I had nothing to do with that…my being one of only two first-team All-American in Eastern Illinois history remains controversial for some but albeit deserving…some teammates believe they were better than me and rightly so I guess, I just wished their play was awarded nationally as so to quantify it.
Robert A. Williams
At the center of your being you have the answer;
you know who you are and you know what you want.
Lately my life has become submerged in clouds of “Busy Work”. This phrase (Busy Work) I learned from students as it describes activities of routine and not of passion. As you are aware, the musings are far too between here on the Dragon, reason? (My mind is trapped in Busy Work). By the way, the longhand journal I keep does not recognize the ink of my pen. WTF, I am a stranger until myself.
How does one maintain deep peace? What sacrifices should one make for happiness? Describe that place? Valid questions, more important than graduate studies, these inquiries are possibly the foundation of my life. (One would only hope).
Since March 2007, The Invisible Dragon blog has been a sanctuary for reflection but lately it has become a foreign novelty. I would like to invite a reunion, a static gathering, where one again set the sunrise by it. Is this a peaceful start? (One does Hope)
I believe one should develop a life philosophy, a livable framework, flexible in structure no less. (If it sounds like I’m new to this I am). Writing to the Dragon is very peaceful; I wonder why one turns their back on it occasionally. What is outside my awareness that motivates these ambitions to flee? How does one maintain deep peace? (I Hope)
The Invisible Dragon